Our family Christmas party having broken up at the alarmingly early hour of 8p, there was nothing for it but to watch It's A Wonderful Life again. It's my favorite movie, one of the few I've seen more than once and of which I never tire. And I admit it, I can't help welling up at the end, me an oak of a male specimen notwithstanding. It always raises some questions as I watch - how come he never sees Mary between the time she leaves for college and returns therefrom, why exactly did George Bailey feel he had to stay at the Building and Loan, where on earth did he get the two grand (in 1930's money, to boot) to spend on his honeymoon (I didn't spend that on mine!), can you really catch a cold by walking home with your top-button undone, and so on. But an aspect of the film struck me this time that hadn't before - George's abusive behavior under pressure.
Maybe it was because Amy and I had just finished watching the last few episodes of season 3 of Six Feet Under, in which the main character, Nate, falls to pieces after his wife leaves for a 3 day trip up the California coast to see her sister and goes missing - for days and then weeks, with no news from her or the cops. Nate, no saint but a reasonably decent dude, is now totally self-absorbed, unable to censor his actions and devoid of empathy for the victims of his abusive behavior. One feels for his plight but recoils from what that plight makes him do. Same with good ol' George; one feels for his loss too - the S'n'L he's given his life to, through duty rather than choice, to boot, is about to collapse through no fault of his own (except his very faultlessness!), but that loss reveals what this erstwhile icon of virtue is capable of: abusing his family, berating a hapless teacher, and the ultimate violence of self-murder - he really would have done himself in had it not been for Clarence's rescue, and for what? - a mere 4 times the amount he was going to blow on a honeymoon.
I always wondered about the final moral of the tale "No man is a failure who has friends". That's not the moral at all - George was frustrated, yes, but not a failure, even in his own mind (he was clearly a success at running the S'n'L), and it wasn't friendship that inspired the donors, it was a sense of owing it to the man who'd done so much for their community. The point presumably is that if you stick to what's right, people will stick by you. But a secondary moral that can be drawn might be: even the best of us is capable of the worst when things get desperate. Not an uplifting thought - maybe I won't shed a tear next time I play the movie.