Vicars

I am fascinated by those who live their life vicariously. I once had a wife who was chronicly sick and a friend who would call up many times a day to see how she was doing and generally chat. But it was clear she was doing this to add something to her own life, not to make my wife's life any better. Lots of folks in britain follow the doings of the royal family in similar fashion. Nietzsche, writing about a century ago, exhorted us to live life to its fullest, even though it may be cruel to you (as it was to him) - he was "pro-life" as it were. i think he would not have taken kindly to living life fully through the life of others.
I mention this because I actually read one of the enclosed year-encapsulation letters that came inside a Christmas card and was wondering its implications. Written by Mom and starring The Kids, 3 very talented, affable teenagers, all with names beginning with A, hence her term for them - the A-Team! I got to learn the not inconsiderable accomplishments of each of the Team, but when it got to the part when we should have been told what Mom and Dad were up to, there was nothing but an admission to the effect that we don't have lives, we just coach the Team. Well if you are going to live vicariously, then at least have it be your kids, I suppose, but I still found that depressing. can't one parent and have a life worth reporting on? Yes, part of life is giving up part of life for your kids - but isn't there a part left that can have its own aspirations, accomplishments, achievements. Am I simply now just "Zoe's Dad"?